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“My underlying reason for the abuse, control and manipulation was in some sick way to keep Teri dependent on me so she would not leave me.” (page 51)

“I became a master of manipulation making everything look like somehow it was all her fault and I was the victim.” (page 26)


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"I just wanted to thank you for writing the emotional abuse book. It was good to get your perspective as a former abuser. Your honesty and vulnerability poured out of my kindle. I rejoice with you in your healing and I grieve with you over the loss of your marriage... Thank you from the bottom of my healing heart!"

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"I could not stand to wait a minute to tell you what a profound effect your book has had on me. In a lot of ways, I felt like I was reading about my own marriage. There were a few extra layers for me to deal wiith in my relationship, but I think abuse is abuse, no matter the form. I think people will go to extraordinary lengths to do what they think will help them avoid pain, successful or not."

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“Anger was always my friend and constant companion for as long as I can remember in this relationship. It was always my go to weapon of choice when I needed a win.” (page 16)

“Yet outside the home I was the nicest guy you would ever want to meet. Most abusers are.” (page 23) (page 26)