Abuse Recovery Resources: Help for Victims and Recovering Abusers

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For Recovering Abusers

I also offer consulting/coaching services on a limited basis. Information can be found in this section.

BOOKS

Broken Children, Grown-Up Pain (Revised): Beacon Hill Press, 2nd Edition, January 3, 2011. Understanding the Effects of Your Wounded Past, by Paul Hegstrom

Why Does He Do That?: Berkley, September 2, 2003.
Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, by Lundy Bancroft.
Lundy does work directly with recovering abusers. Lundy’s contact information can be found here –> https://lundybancroft.com/contact/.


WEBSITES

Life Skills
You can visit the life skills international website at http://www.lifeskillsintl.org. You may email them or call to find out if there is a Life Skills program your area. Their email address is info@lifeskillsintl.org and their phone number is 303-340-0598.

There is also a Life Skills Youtube channel (search “lifeskillsintl’s channel” on Youtube) that might be worth watching. The videos on the channel are only samples of the videos for sale on the LSI website but they are still worth watching.

Emerge: Abuser’s Education; www.emergedv.com
One of 15 certified programs in Massachusetts.

MEVAC – Men Ending Verbal Abuse and Control
I don’t have a lot of experience with this online group, but if your abuse is more of the verbal nature you may want to try them at: mevac.proboards.com/
I have recently joined under the username of aFormerAbuserSpeaks.

Personal Coaching/Mentoring

I offer consulting/coaching services on a limited basis for those who are serious about creating a new lifestyle free from emotional abuse, control, anger, and manipulation. There is hope!  You can live a life free from anger, control, and manipulation.

These are 1-on1 sessions conducted to fit your schedule via phone, Skype, Facetime, Google Hangouts, etc. Visit my Coaching/Mentoring for the Abuser page or Email me at aj@anabuserspeaks.com for more information.

Note: I only work with six people at a time in order to give personalized attention and therefore am only interested in working with those who have reached the bottom of their abusive lifestyle and are desperate to change in order to live in freedom!

Webliography

Life Skills

You can visit the life skills international website at http://www.lifeskillsintl.org. You may email them or call to find out if there is a Life Skills program your area. Their email address is info@lifeskillsintl.org and their phone number is 303-340-0598.

There is also a Life Skills Youtube channel (search “lifeskillsintl’s channel” on Youtube) that might be worth watching. The videos on the channel are only samples of the videos for sale on the LSI website but they are still worth watching.

MEVAC – Men Ending Verbal Abuse and Control

A reader of my book suggested this online forum site: https://mevac.proboards.com/

I have recently joined under the username of aFormerAbuserSpeaks.

Bibliography

Breaking the Cycle of Abuse, Wiley; 1st Edition , December 2, 2005.
How to Move beyond Your Past to Create an Abuse-Free Future, by Beverly Engel

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: Wiley; 1st Edition, August 13, 2003. How to Stop being Abused and How to Stop Abusing, by Beverly Engel

The Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome: Wiley; 1st Edition, April 13, 2007.
What to Do If Someone in Your Life Has a Dual Personality – or If You Do, by Beverly Engel

Note: I really like Beverly’s writings. She has over 30-years experience working with clients who are emotional, physical or sexual abuse victims. She has experience! She was also abused in all three forms of abuse as a child, so she writes from a place of understanding.

Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them: Beacon Hill Press, 1st Edition, January 3, 2011.Breaking the Cycle of Physical and Emotional Abuse, by Paul Hegstrom

Broken Children, Grown-Up Pain (Revised): Beacon Hill Press, 2nd Edition, January 3, 2011. Understanding the Effects of Your Wounded Past, by Paul Hegstrom

Note: Dr. Hegstrom really gets into the psychology of your behaviors without getting too technical or talking above my head. Understanding the psychological reasons behind my behaviors allows me to internalize that I’m NOT defective in some way, as a person. That I can change once I reverse the patterns ingrained into my mind.

The Emotionally Destructive Relationship, House Publishers, August 15, 2007. Leslie Vernick

Why Does He Do That?: Berkley, September 2, 2003.
Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, by Lundy Bancroft

Surrogate Husband Information

Since this form of abuse is very rare, here are some books you might want to check out pertaining to the subject.

Silently Seduced: When Parents Make their Children Partners, Understanding Covert Incest, by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D.

The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to do When a Parent’s Love Rules Your Life, by Dr. Patricia Love

When He’s Married to Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment, Kenneth Adams and Alexander Morgan

Note: Notice there is not even any consistent terms within these three titles. It is very difficult to find information, but “emotional incest” may be the best bet if you’re trying to run a search on the Internet. However, that form of abuse might lead quickly to the sexual aspect instead of the emotional